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Moooooving! Come Find Me At My New Blog!

There are so many things that I love to talk about on this blog that my current title no longer fits everything I want to encompass.

I hope you will join me at my new blog UP Your Awesome!  Where you will learn to overcome limitations to amplify your life.

See you there!

 

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Reminding Yourself To Help Even In Small Ways

One of my favorite blogs GoodLife ZEN by Mary Jaksch posted this video today and I had to share it as well.  All too often, we get caught up in thinking, “When I have more money, then I will help others,” or “If I had more time and money I would help others.”

The good news is that we don’t have to wait.  Even small acts of kindness matter to those around us.  We don’t have to do something major to make a difference.

Start small.  Start Giving.  Collect Smiles.  Feel Good.

Lessons from Rob and Big

I am watching Rob and Big th morning.  for those of you that don’t know what this is, it is a show about Rob Drydek.  I don’t know much about him, but he is a professional skater and the show follows him and his bodyguard, Big.  I am up early watching reruns of this show because now Rob is on his own in his show as Big had to leave to be a father.  For those of you who actually know me, it might come as a surprise that I love this show so much. It can be pretty vulgar in spots but his antics crack me up.  He is the eternal kid.  He is 32 in the episode I am currently watching but he plays and goofs off like a child.  In every episode, you can tell that he is having a blast.   I think I have so much fun watching it because of the fun they are having and the joy that radiates out of them.  They are always playing and coming up with new ways to have fun.  I always walk away from watching this show with a smile on my face.

This morning, while watching it, I tried to figure out why I love it so much and I think I finally figured it out:

First, this show is full of laughter.  Rob and Big are laughing the whole episode about something.  Both Rob and Big are not afraid to be goofy and play.  I read a statistic the other day that the average toddler laughs 400 times per day and the average adult laughs 15 times a day.  That is an astonishing difference.  I don’t even think that most days, I make it to 15 and that is a shame.  Laughter is good for our health but as an adult we don’t tend to find things to laugh about in our day.  This show reminds me that I want to find more to laugh about in my daily life.  I would like to be more childlike in that way.

Second, this show is full of people being true to who they are.  Rob is truly himself and doesn’t try to be anything else.  He is silly and goofy and that is what makes him unique.  He doesn’t filter what he says to appear to be someone else.  He doesn’t try to hide his uniqueness.  He uses it and it has made him famous.  When you are truly being yourself everything just flows.  I am working on a workbook right now that asked me how I am unique.  It took me forever to answer that question.  Like really, I put the workbook down and walked away for a week.  It is a shame that I should have to think that hard about it.  What that tells me is that I haven’t been living in alignment with who I am.  It tells me that I have been trying to cover up, filter or modify who and what I am for those around me.  The next question in the workbook was what makes me memorable.  It took me calling my mom to try to figure that out.  See, in my years of living I have lost sight of who and what I am.  That is moderately depressing.  As I am trying to dig my true self under the rubble, I am rediscovering parts of my self that I forgot were there.  If you know me, you know that I, too, can be pretty goofy.  I don’t let that goofy side of myself come out with anyone but my family and close friends because I try to please everyone around me.  I want everyone to like me and think that people will be annoyed when I am silly and that will make them not do business with me.  Well this business workbook that I am going through, tells me otherwise.  It tells me that the things that make me unique are what are going to help me in my business and become my personal brand.  This certainly has become true for Rob.  He does what makes him unique and he is prospering due to that. 

Third, because they are truly secure in who they are, they don’t hesitate to try things they might not be good at.  They aren’t afraid to fall, make an ass out of themselves or fail.  They just keep trying new things and testing their ideas.   When something doesn’t work, they keep trying until they find something to work.  And the best part is that they are having fun during their process.  They laugh when they fall or mess up.  They can find the humor in a failure (and it makes for great tv).  It amazes me to think that we lose sight of fun in the process.  I know, myself, I hesitate to try things that might make me seem ignorant, unsure or inexperienced.  I get embarrassed if I don’t know everything about a topic and have to look things up before proceeding.  I feel like I should know everything before I get started.  I now know that needing to know everything before moving is just another way to stay trapped and to stay in the same situation.  Grasping for all the knowledge and staying stuck until you feel like you know everything could lead to you being stuck in the same spot for years or life.  Being okay with allowing the process being imperfect, will allow you to keep moving and not get stuck. 

I am going to focus on staying true to myself, allowing myself to laugh, and allowing myself to be goofy in front of everyone, not just my family.  I am going to stop filtering myself so often.  I am going to continue to try to dig up all of who I am and allow myself to be that person.  What about you?  What can you do to laugh more?  What daily filters do you impose on yourself because you believe who you are isn’t good enough?  Who is the unique person inside yourself?  What can you do to get back in touch with that person?  Do you know that person well or have you lost sight of who that person is completely?

Let’s get back in touch with our true selves and see what worlds open up in front of us!  Let’s laugh along the way!

Will you join me?

How to find Meditation Time as a Parent

When my oldest daughter J, was four, I moved back with my mom so I could finish school.  During this time in my life, I was severely stressed and depressed.  I started seeing a wonderful therapist, who introduced me to meditation.  At that point, I didn’t know much about meditation and I thought it was something really complicated and hard to do.  I thought there would be all of these steps to proper meditation. 

I was surprised when she just had me simply follow my breath.  Just breathing in and out?  I could totally do that.  So I started practicing daily.  As I got better at keeping my mind still while meditating, I noticed a shift in my mood.  For almost a year I meditated daily and sometimes twice daily.  I eventually was able to get off antidepressants and meditating became a big part of my world. 

When I graduated from school and didn’t have 2 hours of downtime between work and school, life got busy and meditating got put away.  It has been a little over a year and a half since I graduated from massage school.  I had noticed that I was getting angry more often and being short-tempered with those around me.  I have been trying to get back on the wagon, but it is hard to find uninterrupted alone time when you have two children.  I can’t imagine doing it when you have more than that! 

I ran across an article yesterday that got me to thinking.  So what, I can’t always get alone in the quiet to meditate, I can make my whole day a meditation if I want. I can focus on my breathing, both the in and out breath while I focus on my family.  I can be present when demands are made of me.  I can breath while holding a smile.  I can be aware.  I can bring my attention back to my breathing when I realize my mind is running away with me.  When I feel angry and frustrated, I can breathe and focus on being compassionate.  Then my family will benefit directly from my practice. 

I tried this yesterday and right before I tucked my oldest daughter into bed, she said, “Mom you were really happy and laughing a lot today.” 

That made my heart smile.  I just tried to focus on my breathing and maintaining a smile and she noticed it.  I didn’t point out what I was doing or make a fuss about it, and she noticed a difference in me. 

What about you?  How can you incorporate whole-day meditation?  How do you think that your family will benefit?  I intend to keep testing it out and see what happens.  I believe that having meditation time by yourself is important to, but when you can’t get away, meditate with your family.

Shrek Forever After

I watched this movie with my family over the weekend.  I am consistently amazed by the Shrek movies.  Don’t get me wrong, this movie wasn’t as funny or entertaining as the other movies in the series, but there were some great messages.  In fact, this movie seemed to have a much sadder/darker overtone than the other movies.  As the movie unfolded, Shrek made a decision that changed his whole life.  At the time, he didn’t feel like it would change very much.  He felt like it wouldn’t make any difference in anyone else’s life.  Unfortunately, the decision he made changed everything! 

Because of his decision, everyone who was in his life was affected and it got me to thinking.

Our decisions can affect everyone around us.  What can seem a simple decision that only affects us might change everything for others around us.  We might not ever know the impact of our decisions, but they definitely do make an impact.  Different decisions can change the entire course of your life and the lives around you.  We are all interconnected and it would be naive to think that our decisions only affected the person making the decision. 

So before making any decisions…

Take a Pause.

Breathe.

Think about how the decision will affect those around you either positively or negatively.

Then make the decision.

Because we don’t really know what we have until it is changed or gone.

Getting back on the Mat

On January 16th, I stumbled across my yoga mat for the first time in forever.  It was buried behind a diaper pail, next to two gift bags full of formula (unused) from the hospital and under a couple of pillows.  Before I was pregnant, I used to try to do yoga more regularly.  While I was pregnant, I bought a prenatal yoga video with great intentions of doing it for my health and that of the baby.  As mentioned in a previous post, I am not usually motivated and committed to keep up with a workout routine.  I do know that when I do yoga and meditate regularly, I am a more patient and calm person. 

So why is my yoga mat collecting dust?   

I will tell you why.  Life gets busy and sometimes the things that keep us the healthiest get put off.  We intend to put it off one day and before you know it a whole year has gone by.  In my case during that year, I have found myself being more short-tempered with those around me and not as patient.  I have also found myself a few pounds heavier and way less bendy.  I committed to myself to at least do a little yoga for the next 21 days.  It takes 21 days to make a habit…that’s it…only 21 days and you have created a new habit or broke an old one. 

Is there something that you have been putting off doing?  Is there a habit that you are trying to break?  Surely there is something that you have been meaning to do.  Something that you wanted to do for yourself?  Let’s blow the dust off our good intentions and get moving toward our goals.  What are you going to commit to doing for 21 days?

Date night

Tonight I got an unexpected surprise and my oldest daughter J went to her first slumber party so G and I decided to have a semi date night.  We still had Roz but could actually manage to have some adult conversion. 

Well what do we end up talking about?  The kids of course. 

It got me to thinking…what do you talk about when your kids move out?  If you haven’t spent any time working on you or your hobbies then you might not have much to talk about when the kids grow up.  So in line with my previous post about nourishing ourselves, what do you do just for you and no one else?  Who were you before kids?

Let’s make a commitment to do something just for us at least once a week.  Here’s to making sure our later years without small children are full of fun activities!